'A sense of humour lends you poise, it gives you balance and it helps you to bend without breaking'

(HH Pujya Gurudev Swami Chinmayananda)

MenoSundays; Life Lived Lovingly

Reading our own hearts is not so easy, is it? So readily we can 'see' others. We think. However, all too often, how we are seeing them is through the prism of our very own 'hearts'. Recall last week that it was pointed out that the term 'heart' is misleading. It is the mind which is the seat of emotion. It is the mind which looks and points and praises, parodies or pouts. Due to thoughts transferring into bio-electric signals, chemicals are released in our body; endorphins, adrenalin, various hormones. You name it, there's an 'elixir' to trigger somatic responses which the mind then translates as 'feelings'.

So much of our reaction to things and events is a matter of perception. Perception is coloured by things such as ego, experience, desire...

Thus, unravelling our own motives for things we say and do is complex. Taking the time to do this, though, often rewards us with deeper understandings and empathies, improving our own self-esteem and funding the ability to boost others.

It is not without challenge. Acknowledging the dark corners of our 'heart' can be painful. Not in a physical sense, but for the ego. There are those who are said to be 'strong-minded'. This is a subtext for stubborn. There is nothing wrong with having firm opinions, as long as they can be offered without causing direct offence. However, very often, the stubborn do not wish to be shifted and fear of this happening causes anger to rise, language to become harming and even fists to fly.

We must be careful, too, of not receiving input from a standpoint which is always defensive. There are those who see nothing but insult in every word uttered, no matter how gently or clearly. It is impossible to imagine the emotional drain it must be on the system to feel that the world is surely attacking at all times.

If we work upon our dark hearts and clear them, purify and heal them, everything that we say and do will become motive-clear also. No matter whether another looks for 'agenda', we can be sure that we do not have one and that we are speaking with 'true heart', pure intention and from a place of Love.

These then, are the two words to apply to ourselves and use as tools to remove our emotional and egotistical agendas...



  1. I find it easy to forgive...but hard to forget.
    I need to work on clarify and purify!!
    Hugs HiC

  2. Easier to decipher one's own feelings than unravelling the motives of others. One never knows the whole story of another person's psyche. Clarifying is easier than purifying.
    Have a great Sunday!

  3. I have so many dark corners there are times I think there is not enough light to expose the all. namaste, janice xx

  4. It can be so hard when someone chooses to take offence. I think the word "choose" is what's important - you can choose to assume the person meant something positive or you can choose to assume they meant to be hurtful. I'm on the side of choosing the positive intention - it makes life so much happier and less stressful.

  5. I am not what happened to me, I am hat I choose to become...(C Jung). How I react can change everything.
    Love Barb


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