MenoSundays; Life Lived Lovingly

As most of us obey instruction and isolate ourselves - insulating against an infection that has stormed the world - it is possible to wonder what is there of life to live lovingly?

Many of those isolating are fortunate in having a co-habitant in some form (husband, other family, a pet...) I do believe it is possible that most have been tested in their companionship, one way or another. It is one thing to choose to be together at any given time. It is quite another to be forced into that situation. Maintaining levels of respect, boundaries, compassion and understanding can become areas of strain or even conflict. Not because one loves each other less, but because all the usual 'levellers' have been removed. Things such as "just popping out to the shops/pub for a bit!", or "am off to the cinema, see ya later". Cooling-off now has to be done within the home and, yes, there may be a door between, but that often doesn't allow for adequate decompression.

Here is the opportunity to apply the capital 'ell' in a very immediate manner. There is scope for recognising when an argument has been about nothing at all other than frustration. Acknowledgement of the tensions or, equally, acceptance of any true issues which make themselves naked in close proximity. Actively seeking to be the solution, albeit simply in the pure, uncritical listening - or asking to be properly heard.

Just because we are not out and about in the world doesn't mean that capital 'ell' goes on the back burner. Let the flame of Pure Love help in clearing up any mess that floats up in this closeted life. Let that flame lighten the dark patches and aid the cleansing of the heart and mind.

For those of us who live alone, it boils down to remembering that there are still connections to be nurtured and means to do this. The wonderment that is communications technology these days is surely a true lifeline?!

Also, we can all still reach out to the wider society through the continued support of charities and services that remain running.

The greatest capital 'ell' Love act right now, though, is to follow government instruction; adhere to policies of facial coverings, distancing where in contact, remaining at home unless it is absolutely necessary to be outside of it. There is still some way to go and it is surely by all of us taking individual responsibility that the whole of society can then benefit.