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(HH Pujya Gurudev Swami Chinmayananda)


Menocreatikul; More Makerings

Currently, crochet is providing me with something to stabilise my days. It's always good to have the hands busy as it can help keep the thoughts from wandering too. As father sinks ever further into the grip of age and Parkinson's, one must guard against 'sinking' oneself. 

I am very accepting of life's processes. It begins. It ends. All sort of nonsense takes place between those two facts. But if it began, then indubitably, it will end. I am not overly emotional, but am not unaffected by seeing a once vibrant man become little more than a blob. The worse for his knowing it himself and having to witness the storm that creates inside him. (Or facing that storm when it leaks out.) One finds oneself wishing for a clean and sudden end... all the time knowing that the disease in question prefers to drag things out for its victim, to make life as unpleasant as it can for them before departure. 

We hold onto the lighter moments when they come - like the one just as I was typing this, where his 'chariot' took off with him asleep at the control. He'd forgotten to switch off the power when he went through to the lounge and was doing doughnuts in front of the telly. Of course, according to him, there was no sleep and he wanted to be doing that...

Then there's the news from Mac2 that one of her pals has produced a new life. She wanted a little set to gift. I got busy. A purpose beyond endless shawls and slippers! Received a lovely letter back, too. Artemis Elizabeth left her fingerprint. Her first 'authorship' at age one month!!!



17 comments:

  1. Oh YAM that is the softest most beautiful little set of new born attire I have ever seen.
    It looks like cotton candy!!
    Hugs Cecilia

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  2. The baby slippers etc are lovely, and wee Artemis clearly has a great writing career ahead of her! As for the other end of life, how we all wish it could be clean and sudden, but that's not how it will be for most of us.... I learned today that Douglas, one of Bertie's park friends, a black Lab who had clearly been in failing health for several months, had finally departed from us a few days ago. His final day was spent surrounded by the love of his family and he enjoyed a last meal of a prime cut of steak (being a Lab, even at the end his appetite had not failed him). Then his span of 15 years was swiftly and kindly ended by the vet.
    Stay strong and take each day as it comes.
    Cheers, Gail.

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  3. We have said it before and we will say it again - you are a wonderful daughter.

    The baby set is beautiful - one of my favorite yarn blends. Wish there were a little one coming our way so I could make a pretty set too.

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  4. How soft those baby items look, a job well done.

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  5. Our hearts go out to you and your Dad; and yes F knows the powers at those times of having knitting/crochet to do. Stay sane, keep loving. Furrings and purrings. Mr T (and F).

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  6. that is wonderful... like a fluffy little cloud on the sky... well done!!!

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  7. Beautifully crafted, Yamini. Soft things radiate a calmness to mind, especially when connected to toddlers.

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  8. It isn't easy, Yam. I know. At the end, it's difficult to remember the good years, too. I cannot imagine a better caregiver than you. You are in our thoughts.
    The outfit is adorable! Good for you. We're happy to be done school for the year. We're dreaming up ways to amuse the girls and limiting computer time. sigh. xx

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  9. Absolutely a lovely gift! I too love that yarn and it looks so soft and cuddly and I would love to see it on the baby. I hope they let it wear it soon so that it doesn't outgrow it it is so precious. Glad that instead of mindlessly working you had something in mind. I have been where you are at now with a dad 93 + with Parkinson's I fully understand how you feel

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  10. That's a nice gift, Yamini. Well crafted.
    It's often said if things don't turn out the way we want, make the best of the way things turn out.
    Accepting life, like you have rightly said, is the most positive and realistic approach, especially when things aren't turning out the way one would like them to.
    My uncle was in somewhat similar state, and I can relate to what you describe.
    It's important to keep one's spirit up; and I must say that you are doing a wonderful job of taking care of your father.

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      Thank you for those kind and thoughtful words, Pradeep! Sometimes, just telling how it is halves the stress... YAM xx

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  11. Being a caregiver is not an easy job. Hugs to you and your dad♥ The baby item are so cute. Love the sweet yarn!

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  12. It's never easy to take care of someone at the end of their life. We did get a chuckle trying to picture your dad doing donuts in the living room. Maybe next time you could take a video. BOL! That baby set is so pretty. We love the pastel rainbow colors.

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  13. Dear Artimis: groan. You will change your mind when your wear it.
    Dear Yan: Courage, dear friend.

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  14. Hi Yam - those are gorgeous ... such a pleasure to see. What a fantastic little corresponder young Artemis will turn out to be - love it! Take care and stay safe - the thought of your father doing his doughnuts is a fun or two image!! Hilary

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  15. Darling work. Wonder if there is a need for these at local hospitals? namaste, janice xx

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