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Menorflexion; Alpha-Betting Resilience

Yesterday saw the letter "M" in the Martha Simpson affirmation alphabet. (Please note that this series has been given its own label here, of 'ABReflctions'.)


Saying "N"o can be a challenge - particularly for women. Many of us, for various reasons, will keep saying yes to stuff... and then wonder how we got in this mess! This is something that I actually learned quite early in life and managed to use without causing offence or rocking boats. But it does take practice and if it is new to you, it will certainly create a wave or two among those invested in your compliance!





14 comments:

  1. No is a short word but often very had to say!!
    Hugs Cecilia

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  2. Can I say NO to toothpaste? NO NO NO NO NO....NO toothpaste. F told me to 'be serious' but this is serious, I hate the stuff.
    ...those invested in your compliance...F said that has provoked some thinking. She is going to share that with a particularly militant friend who will probably want to build on that idea. Furrings and purrings Mr T (and F)

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    1. Hari OM
      One of the hardest things to weather when seeking to self-improve/empower, is the confusion/anger/frustration/ disgust etc which comes from friends and family who want us always to be who we were and are intolerant of growth away from that. True Friends - True Love - makes no judgement and lays no hurdles to our improvement, perhaps part of saying 'no' is also part of 'letting go'!!! H&F Y-a xx

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  3. Many of us have a hard time saying NO, but as one ages, one realizes that it is not possible to say YES to everything.

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  4. I sure wish I was better at NO. Its been tough, at one time I had a card in my wallet that I would take out when someone asked me a favour that said, "Just say no. And when you do, don't complain and don't explain. Every excuse you make is like an invitation to ask you again in a different way."
    I think I need a new one.
    Love ya
    Barbie

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    1. Hari OM
      I like that - am going to borrow it! Yxx

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  5. True, a timely know arrests many confusions and problems that may arise further. A meaningful write-up, indeed, Yamini.

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  6. Early in my career, an older colleague advised me that saying yes to every request to help others at work with trivial tasks they didn't want to do themselves would result in me just spending all my time doing those trivial tasks. Sage advice.

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  7. that's the hardest lesson... but like dad's rival rod said, the first cut is the deepest and it counts for NO too... and it goes easier after we jumped over our shadow and use it when needed

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    1. Hari OM
      It's true - once we understand there is no embarassment in laying down boundaries, we become expert fencers! Yxx

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  8. I had a much harder time saying no in my younger years but not anymore. Sometimes, it hurts to say no but I know that I'm doing the right thing and for the right reason.

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  9. at my advance age, I have learned the art of saying NO

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  10. We are always saying yes or no ~ human nature ~ 'One coin ~ two sides' ~

    Live each moment with love,

    A ShutterBug Explores,
    aka (A Creative Harbor)

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  11. The biggest no I have to say right now is all the folks asking for political contributions. namaste, janice xx

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