Hello there... I realised just now as I was trying to catch up on blogs elsewhere, that I am due to write a post for here and that it is due to go live in three minutes from this moment as I type. Crikey.
Not to worry. That's the way life is just now. It has been a very trying week. Put simply, the first night of 'care' was disastrous. I won't go into detail but will let you know that I just about broke down when I discovered the state of dad in the morning. Needless to say, we were both apprehensive about the second night with that same lady and I was girding my loins for having a 'firm talk'... but as it happened, from their side, the company let me know that "something had come up for P and that R would be replacing her for Tuesday night". Fair enough. I returned the email with a few paragraphs about our experience.
R arrived last night and the difference sunshine after rain. Dad was immediately reassured with her professionalism and bright personality. I left them once he was in bed feeling confident again. When I came through Wed morning, he was smiling and happy and things had clearly gone well.
Now we await the next person with a degree of anticipation and trepidation. An emotional roller coaster as we iron out the issues. As if I wasn't exhausted enough...
That's all I have to report just now. Sorry, no comments on blogs for a couple of days. Need all my focus. Hooroo the noo...
Wow - bad start, but at least from there things could and did only get better. In some ways that's better than good turning into bad after you have begun to trust and relax. I hope you and Dad continue to get bright , dedicated and professional help - and decent sleep. (Hats off to good carers, who can see the person in the 'cared for' and bring light into their life. It's a very special skill and not recognized for what it is or valued enough by our society. Mr B's sister is a carer.) hugs from F & Mr T
ReplyDeleteGosh YAM I'm so sorry but I 100% know what you mean. We had a few like P. Finally we had one that was there 24/7 for 4 days. Friday-Sunday different ones.
ReplyDeleteI hope and pray you can get one that will come more routinely
Hugs Cecilia
And this is probably not the last of it. We went through a lot of that with hubby's father when he was still at home but in advanced stages of Alzheimer's. It is tough to find good help, but when you do, it is so reassuring. All the best. AND no worries whatsoever about blog visits!!!
ReplyDeleteSo disappointing you had such a bad experience on the first night. I did wonder if there was a reason you'd been quiet in the blog world. Fingers and paws crossed that it was a one off and last night was more typical of the service. Oh dear, these things can be SO difficult.
ReplyDeleteSending love and hugs,
Gail and Bertie.
Sorry to hear your first night with care didn't go so well. We have our paws crossed that any new care givers are better.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry the first night was so terrible. I hope that career is assigned somewhere where he is a better fit. Happy to hear night 2 was a success.
ReplyDeleteHome health care firms want to give good help. I'm sure they are mortified. I hope it never happens again; you need the respite they are. See you down the road. Hooroo the noo...
ReplyDeleteOh my. So so difficult. I will spare you the details but I've been through something similar. I hope that you have the strength to make it through the next few days.
ReplyDeletewe are so sorry that this happened to you... this year is full of sad and bad moments... it should be enough now and we hope for the better things... BIG hugs to you
ReplyDeleteThat must be so hard, having to deal with a new person each day. I hope the rest is up to R's scratch! Hopefully once that is sorted to everybody's satisfaction, life will slow down a bit again.
ReplyDeleteKlem
How sad for you and we hope that things will only get better. Hugs♥
ReplyDeletePrayers that each night will get better and better. It's a shame that it can't be the same person doing it all the time and the second one would be good changing up two different people has to be hard on your dad. I hope everything went well last night. And I hope the person that did not do good never comes again
ReplyDeleteSending love, prayers and lots of virtual hugs!
ReplyDeleteOh, my. Certainly trying times when attempting to work out all the particulars of elder care. Lifting you, your dad and the care team to the Creator that the future holds smooth sailing and positive results. namaste, janice xx
ReplyDeleteOh, Yam, I feel badly for you.
ReplyDeleteI have stories of PSWs, but, for the most part, they are trying their best. xx
Being a 'caregiver' is exhausting ~ lots of healing reiki hugs for you ~ Xox
ReplyDeleteLive each moment with love,
A ShutterBug Explores,
aka (A Creative Harbor)
Hi Yam - so glad things turned around ... no worries about not being around for us - at times ... we all understand. Big hugs xoxoxo
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